Speaker 1 00:00:01 Welcome to your yes, build life. I'm your host, Brenda Winkle, educator, healer, speaker, guide and fierce advocate for your. Yes, I help sensitive and successful men and women find, reclaim and live from their full embodied. Yes, through empowering you to understand your energetic hygiene, establish healthy boundaries, and heal your nervous system, you'll be able to create your yes filled life and move through your days with more freedom, more ease, and more joy. You'll hear inspiring stories of people who found their full bodied, yes thought leaders who pursued their own dreams and are living life on their terms, and learn new ways to find the courage, joy, ease and freedom to more fully step into your yes filled life. Saying no to the good so you can say yes to the great. Join me on this journey to discover your yes filled life. Whether you're looking to break free from the golden handcuffs, start a new business, find your dream job, or simply live with more intention and mindfulness, I've got you covered.
Speaker 1 00:01:15 Let's explore the possibilities together and make your dreams a reality. Ready? Let's do this. Let's get you to your yes filled life. Hello and welcome to your yes filled life. I'm your host, Brenda Winkle. Whether you are a first time listener or you're coming back again. Thank you so much for being here today. I recognize there are a lot of different podcasts that you could be listening to, and it means so much that you're here with me. I promise to make this well worth your time. Today, we're going to be digging into an unexpected way that you can reclaim your energy and energize your purpose. You're ready. It's all about boundaries. Now you know, the thing about boundaries is they're a buzzword. We hear about them all the time. And you're probably thinking, I've heard all this before. And you know what? As someone as successful as you, a high achiever, a professional entrepreneur or light worker, you have absolutely heard about boundaries before and you're already really good at them in so many respects.
Speaker 1 00:02:24 And so I'm not going to give you the same old, same old that you already know. Instead, we're going to be looking at this from an energetic perspective. So my question for you today is do you feel like your energy is constantly being pulled in every direction except for towards yourself? If you said yes to this, oh my gosh, me too. Now I don't feel that way currently, but I've absolutely felt that way in my own life. In fact. December is a great time for me to remember a former life of mine. One year it was, I believe it was 2019. I was running the business. I hadn't started the podcast yet. That didn't come until 2022, but I was running my business part time. I was working full time as a music educator in a school district in Boise, Idaho, and I was working part time as the Idaho Children's Chorus director, which meant that every year the children's choruses and I would go to The Nutcracker, which was performed by Ballet Idaho, and we would be there for all of the first act.
Speaker 1 00:03:38 I don't know if you realize that at the end of the first act in that song, there's actually a children's choir. And so I would bring the children in for every single performance of The Nutcracker, and they would sing one song. It was 37 minutes into the first act. We would begin to line the hallways and as silently as possible, we would walk through the hallways, down into the pit, the orchestra pit in the Morrison Center in Boise, Idaho. And as quiet as we possibly could, we would line the back wall of the orchestra pit, centering ourselves in the middle between the two microphones that picked us up. And there we would wait until the perfect cue, which came after a huge cymbal crash. We'd get cued by the conductor, and of course, we had counted all of the measures in. I mean, so much counting like one, two, 32233234, two, three, counting all the measures. And I mean, there were hundreds of majors before we even came in.
Speaker 1 00:04:49 And this is all at the beginning of the song. So we would stand down there, we would sing. It was really a beautiful experience. We couldn't see the ballet happening, but we could feel it and we could hear the odds of the audience. And then as soon as our part was over, as quickly and quietly as we could, we would leave the orchestra pit and we would run up the stairs as fast as we could, run through the backstage area of the Morrison Center, back into the room where we had been waiting, so that at the end of act one, the children could go meet their parents. We did this for every single performance of The Nutcracker ballet every single year. I was the director for three years. And so that means in the course of those three years, I did, depending on the year between 7 and 11 performances of The Nutcracker, including the dress rehearsals. So let's just say we did a minimum of 27 nutcrackers Over over the course of those years. Now, at the time, I was telling myself that this was a real honor.
Speaker 1 00:06:00 And it was it was a real honor. But what I hadn't considered and what I didn't really talk about with anybody, is that I had worked a full day at school. I had taught all day. Then I would rush to pick up my daughter. We would go have dinner at the Opera Idaho offices or sometimes in the car, and then we would continue on to the Morrison Center, where we would meet with the other kids of the Children's Chorus, and then we would stay for the performance. Then we would go home, and we did this for a minimum of seven live performances each year, not including the dress rehearsals. And then we would go home. And then there were two performances most Saturdays and two performances on some Sundays, although some years there was just one, at any rate. After teaching a whole day and then performing and then going home and feeling the adrenaline rush and then the adrenaline crash of these performances at the end of the Nutcracker season, I was exhausted. And 2019 was the last year that I directed the upright and Children's Chorus as I was laid off in the pandemic and then just stayed off after I realized how much better I felt without working 70 hours a week.
Speaker 1 00:07:21 All this is to say that I prioritized everyone's needs above my own. I prioritize the needs of the School of Opera Idaho, of the individual families, of the kids that I served. And I just kept pretending that it made more sense for me to prioritize everyone else's needs above mine, and that it was worth it because it was, quote unquote, an honor. Well, the last performance of 2019, I vividly remember because there was such a feeling of celebration in the backstage room. The kids were so excited and so proud that they'd completed a year, and that they'd done really well, and their parents were coming, and they were coming to congratulate them. And there was an exchange of gifts, and they brought me some gifts, and it was really wonderful. Then the families went out for dinner, and a lot of them went in a group. And my daughter, who was also a member of the Opera Children's choir, she went with some of her friends because, you know, in 2019, she was a senior in high school, and I was by myself and I found myself leaving the Morrison Centre by myself, walking out to the car by myself, going home by myself.
Speaker 1 00:08:43 And there I laid on the couch in my house, so exhausted that the idea of sitting up to grab the remote felt like too much. I laid there and stared at the ceiling for two hours, unable to move. Utterly exhausted. So when I tell you that boundaries are the key to reclaiming your energy and purpose, I am living proof that it's possible. The reason I teach this is because it's something I most needed to learn. So we're going to talk about three big things today. Number one, the hidden costs of weak boundaries. Number two, we're going to reframe boundaries as essential self-care. And number three, I'm going to share some tools so you can start setting energizing boundaries right now. Sound okay. All right. So we're going to start with number one the hidden costs of weak boundaries. So when we have week boundaries it is a way for us to accidentally be taken advantage of. It's a way for us to accidentally or on purpose over commit and over give. And one of the causes, one of the results of this over commitment, over giving is resentment.
Speaker 1 00:10:13 We don't like to talk about it. In fact, we're shamed for feeling resentful. But the truth is that is the most common emotion. If we know or if we feeling resentment is the most common emotion if we are not setting personal boundaries. So what happens? A typical type of cycle might be that you don't set a boundary as a way to either people, please. A way to avoid conflict. Or maybe you think that there'll be a prize or a reward coming soon if you don't set the boundary. So that might be that you'll be acknowledged for being so helpful, or that you'll be recognized for being a leader of X, Y, z. Or it might be that they'll finally realize how essential to the organization you are. But the problem is that reward almost never comes. And when we prioritize people pleasing or doing things for some type of recognition that we haven't been overt about seeking, we almost always end up in resentment and disappointment. So, you know, the problem with resentment and disappointment is not only that those emotions feel bad, but then for many of us, that triggers feelings of guilt and shame.
Speaker 1 00:11:37 And so then you have resentment, disappointment. You haven't set the boundary, so you haven't actually gotten what you wanted anyway, or what you needed, and now you're feeling guilty because you're feeling resentful and you still don't have your needs met, right? Does that sound familiar? So what happens for most of us in this cycle, in this part of the cycle, is we show up exhausted, depleted. We feel stuck. We or we resent the people that we love the most. And so when I say that there are hidden costs of weak boundaries, they're not actually hidden. We sort of tell ourselves that by not setting the boundaries, by not having the conversation, that we're somehow going to benefit from it later or we're avoiding a conflict now. But the truth is, we are the ones who pay for that. And that leads us into part two, where we can reframe boundaries as self-care. Now, we haven't even really talked about the energetic component of week boundaries, but I want you to imagine for just a moment, you know, those little dishwasher pods that you can get and they're covered in something that feels like a film? Do you know what I'm talking about? You can also get them in laundry.
Speaker 1 00:12:53 You can get them like the tide pods or the Cascade pods, and they feel like there's they're a little bit sticky, but there's a film on the outside and then you put that in and then it dissolves. If we don't have boundaries, it's like all of those membranes melting. We need the boundary. The boundary, instead of threatening the relationship, is actually a way for you to preserve and protect the relationship. Why? Because when you get rock solid on setting boundaries, on protecting your peace, on prioritizing your energy, you have more to give. And you're not feeling that sense of resentment, and then the guilt that comes from the resentment. If we don't address that resentment, it bleeds into relationships and it becomes a cancer. And there are so many relationships that are destroyed simply because a boundary wasn't set. And I don't know about you. Maybe this doesn't relate to you, but for me, what happened at a certain point in resentment was I would just leave the relationship. And I'm not proud to say that, but it's true.
Speaker 1 00:14:09 I would just leave the relationship rather than risk a conversation, a conversation that might feel like conflict. It wasn't until I did a lot of personal work, got some coaching from some boundary experts like Terry Cole and Mark Groves, who also talk about codependency and high functioning codependency, that I was able to really break this cycle. And what happened as soon as I broke the cycle was that I had more energy, I had more ideas, more creativity, more to give my relationships, my relationships improved. And in fact, I just had a personal experience, like just this last week where my mom came to visit me in Portland. She came for Thanksgiving and she stayed with me and my new townhouse, which just felt amazing. And you know, my mom and I love each other very, very much. And we always have. And there has been some conflict in our relationship and most of the conflict comes from. And I'll just speak for my part, from not saying what it is that I actually need, not setting the boundary.
Speaker 1 00:15:20 Well, I've done a lot of personal work over these past eight years that I've been doing this work inside of your, yes filled life and formerly, yes, Academy and second chapter. And as I've been just doing this deep work, my relationships are improving. They aren't changing. I mean, they they're doing their own work, but the person who's changing is me. I'm showing up differently. And this visit with my mom was literally the best time she and I have ever experienced together. It was wonderful. There was no conflict. There was no tension at all. In fact, she came with me to the Oregon coast. We made a trip out of it as I let a meditation on the beach for a fortune 500 company, which was a dream come true, and it was so exciting to leave that meditation in Arch Cape, which is just a little bit outside of Cannon Beach, and go back to the hotel and tell my mom about it. It felt so good, and there was a time in our relationship when I wouldn't have been able to share that with her, because there might have been conflict, but because we both have done our work and we're both getting really good at communicating boundaries and honoring our own personal inner boundaries, our internal boundaries.
Speaker 1 00:16:41 Our relationship is improving in ways that I literally didn't think were possible. And it feels so, so good. So, you know, we tell ourselves that, oh, I can't set the boundary because I'm going to jeopardize the relationship. When the reverse is true, the relationship is in jeopardy because there aren't boundaries. When we don't have the boundaries. We lose that sense of safety. And just like if you open the laundry container that has those little pods of all those little pods, pods. Let me try that again. If all those little pod membranes burst and they all blended together, we wouldn't be able to to pull one out and separate it from the others to feel, oh, this is this membrane and this is this membrane. And they can be together in the same pot. They can exist in their wholeness in the same laundry container and not merge. That's the beauty of boundaries. You can exist in the same family unit, or in the same friendship, or in the same work relationship, and not merge, which means that you get to be in your fullness, in your wholeness.
Speaker 1 00:17:53 And that feels like power. That's where your personal power comes from, is embracing your wholeness. It's not power over anyone, and it's not power under anyone either. You're sharing the power by setting your boundaries. So that's a little bit about why we need them. But now let's bring this into why boundaries are actually an act of self-love and alignment. Let me give you an example. I need sleep, and I. I mean, we all need sleep, but I need, you know, seven, seven and a half, maybe eight hours of sleep per night. And when I get that, I stay well, I feel vibrant. I have lots of energy, I have lots to contribute to the world because I'm rested. If I don't set a boundary for myself around getting good rest, it's on me. I mean, I'm the one who decides when it's time for me to go to bed, right? The same way as you decide when you go to bed. And even if you have small kids, you can still make the decision around.
Speaker 1 00:19:01 This is time for sleep and it is sacred. But this isn't necessarily about that. How about sleep with littles? This is about my personal boundary with sleep. I know that if I adhere to my 7.5 hours of sleep per night, I show up so differently in my relationships. So my boundary is I go to bed kind of early because I wake up early. I'm usually awake by five 530 every morning, which means that I go to bed, you know, between 9 and 10 at night, sometimes 830. But, you know, this is one of my, my personal boundaries. Another personal boundary I have is drinking enough, which means that I use the bathroom a lot because I'm trying to hydrate. Another boundary that I have for myself is I make sure I eat at least a cup of green vegetables per day. It doesn't matter what kind of green, but that's just a boundary that I set for myself because I know I feel so much better. You can set these kind of boundaries too.
Speaker 1 00:20:03 A lot of times we think about boundaries as external, as trying to set a boundary around what someone else has the permission to or to not do. But really, when it comes down to it, our internal boundaries are absolutely the place that all boundary setting starts. There's so essential, and that's a way to claim your power. You're controlling what you can control, which is yourself. Now, is it possible that my sleep might get disrupted by travel plans or by something outside of my control? Absolutely. That can happen. But I'm not the one who's just staying up late as a way to people. Please. Because guess what? If I was staying up late just to people, please. You know what might happen. What might have happened is my mom would stay up late to people please me back, and then neither one of us would have gotten rest. But we both made an agreement with each other that we need rest. We need to really prioritize not going super fast or really hard. And the week we were together so we could just enjoy the time.
Speaker 1 00:21:12 And that was a beautiful way of taking care of ourselves, literally taking care, self-care and setting the boundary around it. So I had a really exciting conversation with one of my clients this week. Actually, two of my clients shared wins around boundaries inside what will become your yes filled life. And one client was hosting family from out of town. And while not everybody loved the boundaries that she set, she felt so empowered by saying what she needed, including saying what she needed to get a conflict to stop being a conflict. She had a way of reframing something, and the family also did what she suggested, and the problem was solved. And she felt so empowered by having the presence of mind to just say, hey, is this important to us right now? Is there some way we could meet in the middle? And it was just absolutely amazing. My other client that shared a win around boundaries has had a really cool life event that has happened, and she and her husband had purchased a home in a different state, and they plan to go back and forth between two states and two homes, and it's been such a wonderful, wonderful event for them where they get to live their dream life.
Speaker 1 00:22:34 And she's needed to set some boundaries with other family members, because not everyone shares her excitement for her two state life. And so she's needed to say some things to those family members to protect her personal peace. And it's been really exciting to watch her do that with confidence and with ease, and to feel good about it and still be able to celebrate the huge win of living in two states and two homes is for her and for her husband. And, you know, the cool thing is that with both of these clients, the relationships that they're protecting by setting these boundaries are better than ever. And one of the things that we talked about today in our group coaching call was that as we set boundaries, the one thing that we need to let go of is trying to control whether or not someone understands where we're coming from. And so that's one of the things that we do dive into inside those group coaching calls is we take these big topics like boundaries, and then we meet the needs that come up for you.
Speaker 1 00:23:41 So let's say if you're in one of the group coaching calls and you have someone who's disappointed with something, we'll talk about how you can approach that, how you can think about it, how you can reframe it, and even some strategies that you can use to help you protect the relationships as you protect your personal peace. And so that's what we did today. we had our group call today, and it was just so cool to hear about the growth and development that's happening for these super intelligent, brilliant women with high levels of empathy and compassion and sensitivity. It's so important to remember that boundaries are not about shutting people out. Boundaries are about creating space to let them get closer to you, to let them be the right connections and healthy boundaries allow you this spaciousness to make the decisions that are most aligned for you. It's not only self-care, but it's a way to reclaim your personal power. And it just it feels so, so good. So I told you that I gave you some tools for setting energizing boundaries.
Speaker 1 00:24:53 So we're going to do that. I have a new method. I have created the your yes filled life sovereignty method. And inside this your yes filled life sovereignty method, there's a flow chart. So if you would like a copy of this flow chart, send me a message on Instagram at Brenda Winkle and I will give you a PDF for free, no strings attached that has this flowchart of your yes filled life sovereignty method. So the word sovereignty is really important here because when you create sovereignty, you're distinguishing and discerning what's yours from what's not. And this is very important because one of the most important reasons we set boundaries as people with deep levels of empathy and compassion is because we need that personal sovereignty. So we're not taking on energy from other people, so we're not absorbing emotions from other people. And this, your useful life sovereignty method helps us do this. So you can use this method as you make decisions, as you think about conversations, you can think about it in terms of choices that you're making around food or beverages, how you spend your time, even big decisions like whether to buy a house out of state or whether to invite the family to come in from all over.
Speaker 1 00:26:20 You can use this method really for anything. So there's four steps. And then step four has a flowchart. If yes then this. If no then this. So the first four steps. Number one, the moment you realize you have a decision to make, pause. Give yourself 1 or 2 minutes to really notice how you feel. So step one is pause. Step two is take a deep breath and hold the inhale briefly at the top and then exhale completely. The reason for this is we want to make sure that you're fully oxygenated. Your brain deserves all of the beautiful oxygen that you can hold. So that might sound something like this.
Speaker 2 00:27:11 So you're going.
Speaker 1 00:27:12 To inhale deeply, hold the breath just for a moment at the top and then exhale completely. And then I'm going to invite you to give your body a little wiggle or a little shake, just to release any energy that's not yours. So let's do one together. Here we go. Inhale deeply. Hold at the top. Exhale completely.
Speaker 1 00:27:36 And give your body a little. Shake shake, shake, shake it out. Even that makes you feel different. It really feels empowering and nourishing. So that's number two. Number one was the moment you realize you have a decision to make. Pause. Number two, inhale deeply and hold briefly at the top. Now here's number three is give your body that little wiggle or shake. That helps. Just release any energy that you may have picked up that's not yours. And then number four, and this is the one where you have a choice to make when you notice that you have a strong emotion or physical sensation, you're going to ask either out loud or in your mind. Is this mine? Is this mine? Does it belong to me? Okay, so one more time. Step one. Pause. Step two. Inhale. Hold the top, then exhale. Step three. Give your body a little wiggle or shape. Shake. And then step four ask is this mine? And then here's where the flowchart comes in.
Speaker 1 00:28:46 If yes, it is yours. Ask yourself what is this emotion or physical sensation trying to tell me? And just be curious. You might even say out loud, what are you trying to tell me right now? And you will get an answer. You'll get an answer. It's probably going to be a little bit surprising in its simplicity. Then you're going to ask yourself, is there something that I need right now? Most of the time this is ridiculously simple. It's like I need connection or rest. I need a drink of water. I need to put on a layer. I'm cold. I need to move my body and then just see what you can do to support that need. Then you're going to allow yourself to feel all of your emotions and inviting, better feeling thoughts, which will translate into better feeling emotions. By using appreciation as your guide, you're going to use appreciation as a way to feel better. And inside this free PDF, I have a document there called the Emotional Vibration Scale and it has bands of different colors and inside those bands with the different colors, you can use appreciation actually to move up into higher vibrational thoughts.
Speaker 1 00:30:07 Remember you can you can DM me on Instagram and get these email to you with like no strings attached. Just send me a DM and say I listen to the podcast and I want the your yes filled life sovereignty method and the appreciation as your guide. visual. Because I want to do this and then I'll send it to you. Okay. Then you're going to revisit your decision, and you're going to find that after you've met your needs, your decision might feel differently. You might not make the same decision when your needs are met. Now, remember I told you that this was a flowchart and that you were going to make a decision? Yes. If it was yours, no, if it wasn't yours. So let's say it's not yours. Okay? And you realize that this emotion or sensation that you're picking up doesn't belong to you. And I want to say to you, this is more common than you think. This happens a lot, especially if you're highly sensitive or empathic. So if you realize that this isn't yours, you're just going to take a deep breath in and exhale completely.
Speaker 1 00:31:16 Then you're going to imagine zipping up a jacket. You're going to start at the base of your pubic bone and just zip upward, up, up, up, over the back of your head and do that two more times zipping motion, zip zip zip, zip, zip up and one more time. ZIP zip zip zip zip zip zip up. And now you're going to notice you can feel you and you can feel the person or people around you. There's a little bit of a buffer, a little bit of spaciousness there with that zip up. And now notice how you can feel what you feel, and you can feel what they feel, and you'll be able to tell what's yours and what's not. Which sounds a little confusing, but I'm telling you, this happens more often than you think. So once you've determined what's yours, what's not, you've zipped up your energy. Now revisit your decision. It's possible you'll handle things completely differently, and it's important to give yourself grace to change your mind and make a new decision or set a boundary.
Speaker 1 00:32:22 And if you notice that you need a boundary, you can use a framework that I call noticed feel request. So in the notice field request framework you're just going to say I noticed fill in the blank I feel and then share how you feel. And then make a request whatever it is that you are requesting. And again this is included on the PDF document. So you're just going to go to Brandon winkel.com or excuse me, you're going to go to Brenda Winkle on Instagram and DM me and say I listen to the podcast. I want the your yes filled life sovereignty method and I'll send it to you. And I can't wait to share it with you because it is literally a game changer. Absolutely a game changer. So setting boundaries is not a way to create distance or separation. Setting a boundary as a way to protect, preserve and honor your relationships. The more rock solid your boundaries become, the richer your relationships, and more rewarding they become. You know, when I think back to the version of me 15, 16 years ago, I would have told you that I thought I had pretty good boundaries, but what I had were barriers.
Speaker 1 00:33:42 There were ways to keep people out. A boundary is a way to bring people close to the boundaries, a way to increase communication because it allows people to know you. I've definitely felt that in my relationships. I felt my relationships grow closer and closer over the years because I can set really good boundaries. It was something I had to learn. I didn't grow up knowing how to set a boundary, And I definitely didn't know how to set a boundary without a volcanic eruption behind it until probably 2010. But then when I learned that everything in my life has improved and it continues to improve, and, you know, I'm not going to tell you that you'll never have to think about boundaries again after you do this work. It's something I continue to come back to, but I continue to come back to it because my relationships are so important to me. And my guess is your relationships are so important to you too. So not only do you deserve to set the boundaries that you want for your life, but your loved ones deserve that too because they want to know the real you.
Speaker 1 00:34:51 Now let's talk about what happens if someone's upset with your boundary. Again, this is something we go really deep into inside your yes filled life. But it's just really important for you to know that there are two reasons why someone's not going to like a boundary. One is that you're setting a boundary. They don't see themselves as able to set and it feels triggering for them. And the second reason is they're benefiting from you not having set that boundary. So if someone's upset, those are the only two reasons why. And inside your yes filled life, we can go deep into your personal situation. You can get support around it because you're just filled. Life is all about designing the yes from within so that you are giving from a place of overflow, a place of want to, not a place of depletion, or over commitment, or over giving or obligation, but a want to. And when you start to really prioritize your needs, your desires, your dreams, your hopes, you're going to be amazed at how much your relationships flourish.
Speaker 1 00:36:01 It's the opposite of what we think. We're so scared that our loved ones aren't going to have what they need, that we resist setting the boundary. But in the process, we set ourselves up for resentment. So invitation to join us inside your yes filled life for 2025. Your yes filled life is a 12 month group coaching and healing program, and it's also a feminine embodiment program where you're going to learn how to really feel in your body. This is perfect for you if you are a 40 plus high achieving professional entrepreneur or light worker who's good at all the things, it's for you. If you're already successful, you have the home, the career, the family, the car. You just feel like something's missing. You're tired of the mundane, you're a little bit bored and you're tired of putting everyone else first and not having anything left for you. You want to turn to do the things that light you up. You resent the people you love, and that really makes you sad. Drives you crazy.
Speaker 1 00:37:08 Your gas field life is for you. If you believe in energy and you've tried to balance your chakras, meditate, talk to the angels, use crystals, draw oracle cards, do the mindset work. You've gone to therapy and nothing is actually changing. Some days you don't feel beautiful or sexy, and some days you don't even remember that you're a woman or a person. Your role wife, mom, leader becomes your identity. But that's not what you want. You want so much more. You feel guilty that you feel this way, and you know you have some beliefs that need to shift. You just aren't sure how to do it. And maybe right now you're thinking to yourself, I have to be everything to everyone. So you overextend, giving time that you don't have and you feel exhausted. You keep signing up for things you don't have time to do, and you're there for everyone, but you have nothing left for yourself. And maybe right now you're thinking I shouldn't need help. So you try to do it on your own, but it's too much.
Speaker 1 00:38:10 You're juggling everything, and most of the time it works. Barely. But if one thing in the routine changes, it's enough to bring you to your knees. And maybe right now you're thinking saying no is selfish. Well, this was drilled into you when you were a kid. But this not only results in resentment and overwhelm, but you know it isn't true. You know you need better boundaries around your time and energy. And if you were raised in a home that either had no boundaries or had so many boundaries, it was almost authoritarian. You were taught that by setting boundaries, you were either being selfish or disloyal. And maybe right now you're thinking, if I don't do it perfectly, I shouldn't do it at all. And you worry what people will think if you try to do something new, but you know you want something different. And maybe you're thinking right now that other people's happiness is your responsibility. You absorb other people's emotions and then ignore your own needs and desires, and then you feel frustrated and resentful and you keep doing it even though you tell yourself you're you'll stop.
Speaker 1 00:39:13 So if you have done the inner work, you've already gone to therapy, you've invested in yourself, and now you want to actually move the needle and get the transformation. And you want to mentor who has big enough energy to hold you. Because I know that you've struggled to find coaches and therapists and advisors because you end up holding space for them, or they tell you too quickly that you've gone as far as you can with them. If that sounds like you, then you need to join your yes filled life. Imagine a world where you have true inner freedom, where you're liberated from other people's expectations and your own self-imposed rules. You can create and live a life on your terms. Imagine a world where you have authentic self expression, where you can show up fully as you without fear, guilt, or shame. Imagine a world where you have energetic vitality. You literally have sustainable energy to fuel your passions, relationships, career and you no longer agree to do things you don't want to do because you have so much energy to do other really meaningful things.
Speaker 1 00:40:22 You know how to give in a way to your most equipped to give. Imagine a world where you have aligned impact, where you've figured out how to make a meaningful impact without overextending, without overextending yourself. And imagine a world where you have emotional resilience and clarity. You stop people pleasing. You create emotional sovereignty and you feel your emotions without taking on others. Imagine a world where you have connection and belonging, where you find genuine, where you find genuine, you find genuine connections without losing your sense of self. You have ease and lightness. Your life feels less heavy. You have more joy, ease and clarity in your day to day because you trust yourself. You've brought your intuition online. You know how to access your inner guidance to be able to make the decisions that truly resonate with you and your goals. You have fulfillment way beyond productivity. You feel valuable just because you're you, and you're fulfilled in ways that aren't tied to how much you accomplish. Imagine a world where you have balanced relationships, deeply nourishing reciprocal relationships that support you, and imagine having embodied feminine power where you can find that connection with your softer, sexy, intuitive, and creative side, allowing yourself to feel powerful without the striving.
Speaker 1 00:41:49 Your yes filled life is a year long experience from January to December 2025, where we'll work together to help you take on less from other people. improve your wellbeing, manage stress effectively, elevate your creativity and optimize your life and work. Your yes for life is for you if you're an action taker. If you're ready to show up for yourself, if you're already feeling empowered, if you're ready to invest in yourself, if you've already done the inner work and you're looking for your next level, it's for you. If you believe change is possible and you prioritize freedom and growth, expansion and self-expression, and perhaps most importantly, you desire to be a part of a sisterhood, a community of like minded women with big hearts and want to create big impact. To learn more and apply, go to Brenda winkle.com/your yes filled life spots are limited and we begin in January 2025. Go to Brenda winkle.com/your yes filled life all lowercase all one word. You can learn all about the investment and set up a free strategy. Call with me where we can make sure this is the right fit for you.
Speaker 1 00:43:04 It's important to me that you feel like this is the solution for you, which is why I love to do a strategy call with you just to make sure that it is the right fit. Thank you so much for listening to your yes filled life. I can't wait to hear how setting boundaries in different ways is positively impacting your life, so feel free to reach out to me. Email me at. Brenda Brenda Winkel connect with me on Instagram at Brenda Winkle. I think I gave you the wrong email. It's Brenda at Brenda Winkle Comm. Email me at Brenda at Brenda winkle.com or connect with me on Instagram at Brenda Winkle. I can't wait to hear from you. If you found this podcast episode helpful, would you please consider giving it a five star rating and review wherever you're listening? Thank you so much for being here. Bye for now. Until next time.
