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Hello and welcome back to your
yes filled life.
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I'm your host, Brenda Winkle.
I am the energy healer for high
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performers, helping you elevate,
amplify, and expand so that you
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can get your mission into the
hearts and minds of more people.
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One of the things that I've noticed
among my clients recently is that if
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we are not tuning in to our bodies,
sometimes we're missing really
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important information.
Here's what I mean by that.
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Oftentimes in our culture, we are
taught, inculcated, even encouraged
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to view any kind of symptom that
we experience in our body.
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As an inconvenience, and we find
ways to make the symptom go away.
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For example, you have a headache
popping ibuprofen.
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You have some heartburn.
Take an antacid.
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If we do this, we are missing
really important information that
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our bodies are trying to give us.
And as a high performer,
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this is really essential for you
to understand because as a high
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performer, I know that you are
highly intelligent.
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You are already very,
very good at what you do.
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You have had to work extraordinarily
hard to get where you are,
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and you're used to pushing.
You're used to hustling.
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I know because I've been there
and I'm watching my clients do
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the same thing.
So in this episode, we're going to
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be talking about how to tune in
to the body, how to learn to view
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anything that's happening within
our body as information instead of
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an inconvenience, and how to tap
into that information, and why
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it really matters that we do so.
So I am currently completing a
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trauma informed Somatic Coaching
certification.
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I will finish probably by the
beginning of February 2023.
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I've been working on it for
around six months.
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I am working with clients in a
practicum right now where I am
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getting 60 hours of client facing
time working on this healing
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modality, and I am just so honored to
be doing this work with the people
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who have been generous enough to
let me basically practice on them.
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And here's what I'm learning.
I'm learning that.
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For many of us,
it's difficult to get into our bodies
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and that when we do, there is so
much rich information there that.
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We already have everything we
need within us.
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The other thing that I'm learning
from working with many, many,
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many of my high performing clients
is that because you're highly
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intelligent and because you had to
work so hard to get where you are,
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it is very common for you to
rely on your intellect.
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Now, intellect is important, but if
you are relying on your intellect
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at the expense of your intuition,
you're missing out on a lot of
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things. Why? Well, think about.
All of the major disruptors.
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Creators. Visionaries.
Every single one of them leaned
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into their intuition.
They did things that were
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unconventional.
They did things that were
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against the norm.
They did things outside of the box.
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Think of people like Bill gates,
Samantha Skelly, Kendra Scott,
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Raegan Hillier.
All of those people followed
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their intuition.
They did not rely on what
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someone else told them.
They did not rely on a framework
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that had been built for them.
They created their own.
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And the way that they did that
was through their intuition.
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And the access point to your
intuition is often through the body.
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So if we are numbing the body
either through ibuprofen,
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antacids, or maybe too much food,
too much alcohol, too much Netflix,
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we're missing out on really, really
critical information that our bodies
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are trying to share with us. So.
I'm not telling you this from a
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place of judgment.
I'm telling you from this from a
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place of deep understanding.
And I'd love to tell you a story
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in 2022.
Between July and October of 2022.
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I experienced six major life changes.
My dog Hutch died in July,
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which was a really difficult
thing to experience.
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In August of 2022,
I left a 26 year teaching career
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to go out on my own full time
doing the work that I now do,
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supporting high performers like you.
In October of 2022, my daughter,
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who was 21 or almost 21 at the time,
moved out and took our other
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living dog, Jane, with her.
I sold a house and moved into an
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apartment, so there were six major
stressors major life events that
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happened between July and October.
A dog died. My kid moved out.
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I quit a teaching career.
I went out on my own as an
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entrepreneur.
I sold a house, and I moved all
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within that period of time.
And also in October, I began the
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breathwork facilitator program at
Paws Breathwork and became a trauma
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informed breathwork facilitator.
Through that program that I started
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in October of 2022, right at the
the the the critical point of
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all of this change in my life.
So I was telling myself that because
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I was tapped into the breathwork and
I was doing breathwork and really
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practicing, that I was a little
bit immune to the other stressors.
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I was telling myself that if I
just continued to lean into the
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breathwork the way that I had done,
that, the rest of it would go away.
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I didn't really need to address it.
It would kind of happen on its own.
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And, you know,
to a certain extent that is true.
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It really is true that breathwork
is that transformational?
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But the problem was I was
ignoring things in my body.
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Deep knowingness in my body.
And I was kind of still in that
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forcing energy that I'd been.
If you've listened to the podcast
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for a while, you know that, um,
in the fall of 2019,
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I had a major health crisis that
I almost, I almost died from
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because I was ignoring my body.
So when we get to the fall of 2022,
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I've done all of this deep
somatic work.
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I'm working as a coach, as a healer.
I really kind of thought, okay,
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I've got this figured out.
I'm listening to my body and
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things were going well.
Up until about November.
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And in that November I realized that.
I wasn't feeling as well and it
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was kind of nondescript.
I couldn't really put my finger
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on what it was.
I just knew that something wasn't
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quite right. I was in a routine.
I was seeing clients, um,
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in in the days I was tapped into
the breathwork facilitator program.
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I was tapped into community.
Through that program,
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I was a member of a mastermind
and tapped into that community.
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And so I kept telling myself,
I'm doing all the right things.
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And yet there was this low level.
Depression that had started to
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set in and I was pushing it away,
telling myself, this isn't really
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here, this isn't really here,
this is not real.
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I can just continue to do the things
I'm doing and it's going to go away.
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It's all going to be fine without
actually acknowledging everything
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that I was experiencing.
So in November of 2022, I was in
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the groove of taking care of Jane,
the Tony, the dog that my daughter
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and I had shared until she moved out.
And what that meant was that I
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was living in between Maya's
work and her apartment.
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And so each day Maya would come
and drop off Jane the chimney at
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my apartment.
When she went to work,
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she was working, you know,
between 3 and 5 days a week.
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So on the days that Maya worked,
I would see Maya.
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I would spend the day with Jane.
And, you know,
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things were pretty good.
It was easy to pretend that
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everything was great.
Well, sometime in November,
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Maya ended up with three days
off in a row.
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And it happened at a time that
was concurrent with a lot of the
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other kinds of things that I was
tapped into, not being active.
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So for whatever reason,
and I literally can't remember for
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whatever reason, I wasn't tapped
into the mastermind I was a part of.
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I wasn't tapped into the
breathwork program.
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I wasn't tapped into even my own
community.
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And I noticed that the only people
that I was having contact with
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were people online and in Voxer,
which let's not take anything
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away from that.
That is absolutely beautiful and
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wonderful.
But when I say those were the only
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people I'm I was seeing, I mean, they
were the only people I was seeing.
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I was new to this apartment
neighborhood,
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and I was trying really hard to
integrate into that neighborhood.
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And so I would walk multiple times a
day hoping to meet some of the the
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residents in my apartment complex,
maybe to make new friends and,
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you know,
establish a neighbor relationship.
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And at the end of a third day
sequence, there were three days
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in a row that I was doing this,
not having the the meetings.
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Maya wasn't coming over because
she wasn't working, and I was just
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walking around the apartment complex.
I realized it had been three
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days since I had had interaction
with a human.
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Three days since I'd even seen.
Another human.
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Now, if you're an introvert,
that might sound like heaven to you.
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I am an extrovert, and that means
that I am energized by being around
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people and that I actually feel
better when I'm around people.
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So for me to not have seen another
person for three days was a lot.
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So I had this cognitive
awareness that, hmm,
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something's a little off here.
And later that night,
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I sat down on the sofa.
I turned on a lamp and I began
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to read.
I heard the flutter of wings and
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I thought to myself,
where is that coming from?
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And it was coming from the lamp
next to me, out from the top of the
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lampshade emerged. A large stinkbug.
Crawling around the rim of the lamp.
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Now, I had the cognitive awareness
to know that this was a situation
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that I normally would recoil from.
I am not scared of bugs,
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but I don't really want to live
next door to a bug.
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But that's not how I felt that day.
That day, I felt such profound
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relief that there was another
living being that wasn't my plant.
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And I also had the cognitive
awareness that.
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That thought was not normal.
And so I recognized in that moment
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that I needed to make a change,
that I needed to really address the
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feelings, allow myself to feel them,
allow myself to let the feelings
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inform what would happen next.
And the minute I did that and
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really admitted I was lonely.
I was grieving my grown daughter
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moving out.
I was grieving the loss of my dog,
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Hutch.
I was grieving a 26 year career.
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I was stressed and anxious about
becoming a new entrepreneur and
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supporting myself,
and I hadn't really given any of
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those things credit.
So when I began to give myself
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permission to actually feel those
things. Everything started to shift.
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Ideas popped into my mind. Hmm.
What would it be like if I went
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walking on a trail instead of
around my apartment? Hmhm.
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What would it be like if I
changed my routine?
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And instead of planning,
shopping for and preparing my
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meals for the week on Sunday,
I broke that up into 2 or 3 times per
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week so I could get out of the house
and make sure that I was interfacing
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with humans somehow, some way,
even if just at the grocery store.
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And slowly,
little by little by little by little,
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I began to change and feel better.
That's also how I knew in my body.
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That it was time to leave the
apartment.
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So anytime we're experiencing
stress or friction in the body,
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we don't want to ignore it.
We don't want to pop a pill for it,
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because if we do,
we're missing the lesson.
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So I've talked about context and
content before on the podcast.
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The context is the thing that's
happening all around you.
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The content is the emotional
learning that happens as you move
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through the life experience.
If we're always popping a pill
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to take away the discomfort that
we're feeling,
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we are missing the opportunity
to work through the content.
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And what that means is,
no matter what we do or where we go,
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we're going to continue to have
that lesson coming back to us.
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So how does this apply to you?
It's easy and common for us to resist
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actually feeling into the body,
because sometimes there's
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information there that we're not
quite ready to hear.
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And what I mean by that is I was not
necessarily ready to hear it from my
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body. It was time for me to move.
But by listening to my body,
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I got myself out of a situation
that was not ideal.
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Not only was I not a fit
energetically for the apartment
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complex, but I was having a nervous
system response every time my
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neighbors came and went because I was
on a second floor apartment with
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the garages below my apartment.
And so every time they came and
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went and opened the garage door,
my whole apartment would rumble.
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And it really took a toll on my
nervous system.
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So when I realized that I needed
to make a change to protect my own
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energy, I made that decision and
I gave notice that the apartment,
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without knowing where the next
place was going to be.
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And that's how I found the place
that I'm in now, which I love.
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I absolutely love it.
I just followed the body wisdom.
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I did have to be willing to make
some changes. And you will be too.
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Now, they may not be as big as
moving, but it might mean that when
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you tap into the body. Wisdom.
You have to make some changes in
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your relationships, maybe in the
way that you're working, maybe even
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the kind of work that you're doing.
But let's talk about how to
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track energy.
How do you know when something's
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wrong?
How do you know when you need to
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make a change?
Well,
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your body is going to be telling you.
So let's talk about tracking
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energy in terms of relationships.
I want you to think of the person who
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you love to spend time with the most.
Get that person in your mind.
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Now imagine how you feel after
spending time with that person.
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My hope for you would be you
feel lit up, expansive. Joyful.
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Enthusiastic. Energized.
Now, if you are spending time with
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people who don't make you feel that
way, that is an actual energetic tax.
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It's costing you energy to spend
time with those people.
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So if you have someone that you're
spending time with and you notice,
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like for me, I feel it in my eyes
first I notice that like the rims
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around my eyes or on my eyelids start
to get kind of hot like they do right
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before I'm really sleepy and then
I'll notice fatigue setting in.
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I might even have the urge to yawn.
I'll notice I feel very tired or
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I might be fidgety.
I'm typically not fidgety.
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I'm very relaxed most of the time,
but if I start to fidget, that is a
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cue to me that something's going on.
I'm uncomfortable with something.
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There's something in my nervous
system that's being triggered
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right now.
So if I notice either an a, um,
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an impulse to to wiggle my foot,
for example.
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I'll tap into that and realize
something here is in a line for me.
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Or if I'm sitting across from
somebody at lunch and I'm just
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exhausted.
I know that it's not an
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energetic match for me,
that it's costing me more energy.
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Now, let's talk about one of the
things that comes up for people.
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Some people say, well,
but that person is my friend.
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I want to be supportive to them.
And, you know,
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they don't have somebody else.
And if I don't spend time with them,
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who will?
Well, I'm going to tell you something
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that's not necessarily your problem.
That is a problem that they get
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to solve.
Your only job is to protect,
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preserve and expand your own energy.
And the moment you prioritize your
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energy and your peace over everything
else, things fall into place in
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a really, really beautiful way.
So as we track energy,
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I would love for you.
If you have the capacity and
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you're not driving, I would love
for you to grab a piece of paper.
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And I would love for you to draw a
line down the middle of the paper,
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and at the top of the paper,
I would I'd like you to write
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energizing on the left side column,
and I'd like you to write depleting
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on the right side column.
So you've got your paper divided into
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two columns energizing on one side,
depleting on the other.
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And then I would love for you to
brainstorm all of the things that
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energize you, that light you up.
And then also.
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List out the things that deplete you.
Taking a little sip of water here.
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As you. Make your list.
You can think about relationships,
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situations, chores, all different
kinds of topics in these two columns
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of energizing and depleting.
Now, the things that are on your
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depleting column, we're going to
talk about those in just a minute.
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We'll come back to that.
The things that are on the
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energizing column.
Whether it's having fun or spending
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time with friends or a specific
person that energizes you.
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Or maybe it's an activity like
walking or running or going to yoga.
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Whatever you find on the
energizing column,
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I would love for you to find a way to
do more of those kinds of things.
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When we start with the energy
richness,
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and we use that energy richness to
inform the rest of our decisions,
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everything else falls into place.
It's almost like magic.
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Except it's not magic, it's energy.
So if we have an energy richness
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somewhere, we can spread that to
the places that don't have as much
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energy. So I'll give you an example.
I love Lizzos song About Damn Time.
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I've talked about her a lot in
the podcast.
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I am so excited for the day that I
actually get to meet her in person.
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I have ten and one of her concerts,
but her song about ten time just
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is so energizing for me.
I can dance it out and listen to
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that song and sing along with it
before I do something.
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And I'm telling you what,
it makes such a difference in my
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content if I'm feeling good.
So I use the things that are energy
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rich to fuel me, to create more
content that is aligned for you.
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And I guarantee you you can feel it.
If I have not done that because
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I probably repel you.
And the same is true for you.
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The more you energize yourself
before you're creating content,
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or whether that's content for
your work, or if you're a content
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creator or you're an entrepreneur,
the more you energize and
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elevate and amplify your energy
before you even do the thing.
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It absolutely has an impact.
So Samantha Skelly,
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who's one of my mentors,
she always says, don't touch the
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baby before you wash your hands.
So when we're talking about energy,
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this is what we're talking about.
You don't go do the thing until
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you've already cleaned up your
energy, amplified it, expanded it.
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So if you're in any kind of a
collapse where you're not feeling
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energized, whether it's fatigue
or you've got something on your
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mind or you're feeling low,
that is not the time to create.
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That is the time to energize and
amplify and elevate your energy.
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And then once you've got your energy
on lock, then from that point,
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then you can create.
So when we say you're going to
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amplify your energy, you're going to
go find those things on the side of
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your paper that are energy rich.
You're going to do those things right
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before you do things that maybe you
either really want to have a super
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squeaky clean, high vibe energy or.
Maybe they don't have.
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Maybe the thing you're going to
do isn't that energetically rich.
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You could use it in any number
of ways.
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What we often do,
which doesn't work quite as well,
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is we try to muscle through the
things that are depleting,
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which actually only depletes us more.
So as you go through your list
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of things that deplete you.
We're going to form three categories
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of things that deplete you.
They're on these three categories.
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We're going to have things that you
could amplify, things you could like,
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actually change how you feel about
them. We're going to have this.
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That's number one.
Number two is things that you can
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shift your perspective on to amplify.
And then number three on the
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depleting list,
things you actually need to turn
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your attention away from. Okay.
So on the energizing list just
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keep brainstorming.
What what brings you energy?
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What brings you joy? Expansion. Fun.
I'm telling you what energy
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responds to joy and fun.
It is so attractive to energy.
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And when I say energy,
I mean everybody else was going to
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feel your energy when you're in
that state of expansion and fun.
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And if you are not in a state of
expansion and fun again,
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I'm going to come back to it.
Get there before you do anything.
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So now let's go over to our
depleting column.
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The first thing that we're going to
talk about is, how can you amplify
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things on that column that you really
need to do that aren't super fun?
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And I'll give you an example.
So mopping and sweeping floors
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is not my favorite thing to do.
So I know this about myself.
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I know that I tend to try to
avoid it.
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So what I do is I find something
really, really fun to listen to
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or watch while I'm doing that.
So I might put on an old movie
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that I like,
and then I'll mop or sweep the floor.
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Or maybe I'll put on a podcast
that I love and I just listen to
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the podcast,
and very often I will utilize what
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I call my High Vibes playlist,
and I just put it on shuffle and let
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the universe pick a song for me.
And then I just go to town and
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I'm telling you what, I'm having
so much fun that by the time 2 or
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3 songs have finished, I'm done
with the sweeping and mopping.
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And if I wouldn't have amplified
my energy in that way in those 15
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minutes, I probably would have
completely compressed my energy.
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And I might have been thinking
some negative thoughts which which
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would have impacted other things.
But by amplifying.
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And using something that I find
energy rich and combining it with
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something that isn't as energy rich,
I'm actually amplifying the
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energy and I make it fun.
And so I tend to save some of those
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favorite kinds of things for things
that I really don't want to do,
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like sweeping and mopping.
And then it makes it fun.
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I even find myself looking
forward to it.
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So that's number one,
finding ways that you can
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combine the things that elevate,
amplify and expand your energy
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with the things that depleted.
So it's tax season right now or
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you know getting there because
we're all in the new year.
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What can you do to make working
your taxes a little bit more fun?
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Maybe music isn't the thing.
Depending on how your brain works,
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maybe that would be distracting.
But can you make yourself a
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beautiful cup of tea and drink
your tea alongside it?
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Can you reward yourself after
working on the taxes for a set
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number of minutes per day?
Maybe that's when you get to
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watch Netflix.
Find a way to make it something
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you can look forward to.
Which leads us to number two.
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Changing the perspective.
So changing your perspective is
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really, really important.
If you are doing something that
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depletes your energy that you don't
really have an option not to do.
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So let's say you're stuck in your
9 to 5 and you don't enjoy it.
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Let's say you are really looking
for a change, whether that's
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getting your own job or your own,
um, your own company,
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starting your own business,
or maybe finding a different job.
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But in the meantime,
you're in this 9 to 5 if every day
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you are dreading going to work.
And then you think negative things
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all day long, and then you come
home and then you're recovering,
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and you're so exhausted from the
time that you spent at work.
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Oh my gosh, that is so depleting.
And it's so depleting that it
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will actually impact your
ability to create a change.
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You will not find a new opportunity.
You will not be able to start
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your business because you
literally won't have the energy
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because it's too depleted.
So in that case, we've got to
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find a perspective change.
So how can you change the
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perspective of something that
you really need to do?
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It's not feeling like an option for
you to do something different right
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now, and find a way to enjoy it.
Well, let's talk about, for example,
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if we're using the 9 to 5 example,
if you're in your 9 to 5 and you're
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waiting to start your business or
something like that, this becomes
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your path. Two your freedom.
So every day you go to work,
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you say to yourself,
my 9 to 5 is financing my dreams.
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It's giving me the freedom to work
my 5 to 9 or my five to to 12,
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whatever it is where you can actually
create the life of your dreams in
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the times that you're not working.
So every time something happens
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to you at that job that doesn't
feel good, you can just say,
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oh my gosh, it's not that big a deal.
I'm going to use this to
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transmute the energy into
something more positive.
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I am going to use this content
for my evolution,
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because I know that this job,
this job that I'm not choosing
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right now is the key to my freedom.
Or let's say you're an entrepreneur.
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Maybe. You.
One of the things that I find a lot
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of entrepreneurs struggle with is,
number one, creating their
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signature offer and number two,
showing up consistently.
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So in both of those cases,
there is a fear there.
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So how can you shift your perspective
on that fear? How about this.
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Who are the people that you can
serve?
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When your offer, your voice,
your message is out into the world.
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How will your offer your message
impact the planet? Knowing that.
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People need your message knowing that
you have something really, really
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important and valuable to share.
How can you put your focus on
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the people that will be
receiving your message and take
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the focus off of you?
That perspective change alone
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will supercharge your ability to
be able to create.
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If you're worried about you.
It's a really easy way to get stuck.
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When we're thinking about
ourselves and we're like, oh,
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what will people think?
Or what message do they really
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want to hear?
But when you tap into your ideal
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client, into the person that you
really want to work with into your
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patient or the person who you're
serving and you think about from
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their perspective, how can I serve?
It changes your perspective.
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And let's be clear how can I serve?
Is not saying that you should be
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in servant servitude and do your
work for free.
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That is a whole nother podcast
episode.
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But I just want to say service
does not need to be free.
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There is a really important
component of this,
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which is the energy exchange.
And you get to have an energy
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exchange for sharing your gifts
into the world.
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We'll talk more about that
another time.
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So the third thing we're going
to talk about on the the column
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that said depleting is the
things that you need to dump.
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So let me let me tell you a story.
In the past two days,
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I have had the opportunity to be
face to face with multiple people.
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And I want to tell you the story.
Just to kind of illustrate
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tracking the energy. Okay.
We're not making anybody good or bad.
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We're not making any situation
good or bad.
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We're tracking energy in situation
number one. I went to meet a person.
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I sat across the table from the
person for a couple of hours,
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and by the time I got done
sitting across from the person,
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I was absolutely exhausted.
It took me about an hour to get my
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energy right, to get back to my
day after I spent time with them.
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I was really depleted.
I didn't feel like it was what I had
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signed up for. Scenario number two.
I sat across the table.
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From someone and felt completely
energized, amplified. Elevated.
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It was reciprocal.
That person felt the same.
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When they left,
I still was amplified.
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I still was energized even though
hours had passed and this person
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sat at my table for hours.
I don't want to tell you how many
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hours. Like six, eight hours.
I mean, it was a long time,
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and I still felt energized.
So as you're tracking how you're
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spending your time in the social
aspect of your life or the places
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where you do have choice if you're
doing something that is depleting.
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Stop doing it.
Your energy is more important.
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And the truth is,
you're not doing someone who's
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depleting your energy any favors
by sitting there, letting them
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siphon their your energy off of you.
You're not doing them any favors.
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Because the truth is, we are all
responsible for our own energy.
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And if you're allowing someone
to siphon energy off of you,
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you're not giving them the dignity
of their own experience to learn
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how to resource themselves.
It's not your job to resource them.
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It's their job to resource
themselves.
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Now, can you be of service to
someone? Of course.
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The friend who sat at my table
for hours,
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we talked about some real stuff.
Both of us shed tears and yet we
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were energized.
So this is not some kind of
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Pollyanna thing where we're only
talking about the positive things?
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No, we're talking about all the
things the good,
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the bad and the ugly.
And still the energetic exchange is
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so rich, so potent, so powerful.
That we're feeling amplified and
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elevated. That's the difference.
So on your list of the the depleting
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side, if you are spending time
with someone and you have the
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choice to spend time with them,
like let's say it's social or
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something and they deplete you,
you need to find a way to get them
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off your calendar until they can be
responsible for their own energy.
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00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:13,600
Now, I probably could have said that
another another softer way, but,
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um. I really. It's so important.
It's so important. And you know what?
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Many times when you tell yourself the
people in your life, the universe,
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the energy around you, what you are
a yes for the universe responds.
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So if you notice that everyone that
talks to you is coming to you to,
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00:34:40,070 --> 00:34:44,510
um, complain or, quote,
pick your brain about something.
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And they're not. It's not reciprocal.
Just know that there's some subtle
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way that you're saying yes to that.
And when we're talking about our
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yes filled lives, we're not
talking just about the auto. Yes.
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It's not just say yes to as much
as you possibly can.
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It's use discernment to find your
yes, you know, in order to find your
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yes filled life, you're going to
have to say no to a lot of stuff,
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including energy depleting things.
Okay, so we've talked about
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energy richness.
We've talked about energy depletion.
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Let's come back to energy rich.
If you struggle with energy richness
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and you're feeling really anxious,
depressed or sad, I'm going to
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invite you to do some breathwork
every Tuesday at 2 p.m. Pacific.
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From now until I change my calendar,
I'm going live on Instagram to
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00:35:50,740 --> 00:35:55,300
offer breathwork.
I also have a monthly New Moon
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ceremony that I offer every
single month on the New Moon,
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00:36:00,010 --> 00:36:03,880
and you can just go to Brendan
winkle.com/breathwork to learn
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about the date and the time of
those new moon ceremonies.
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So you've got a free option on
Instagram.
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You've also got the paid New Moon
ceremony. Those are $119 each.
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I am accepting a few new clients
for my heal to the yes,
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00:36:19,030 --> 00:36:23,590
which is a one on one six month
healing program for world changers
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00:36:23,590 --> 00:36:26,080
with a huge mission on their heart.
And then of course,
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we're enrolling in yes Academy,
which is my mastermind healing
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00:36:29,980 --> 00:36:33,340
program and leadership certification
program for world changers with
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00:36:33,340 --> 00:36:37,900
a huge mission on their heart.
Yes, Academy is a 12 month
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00:36:37,900 --> 00:36:43,810
container and it is so impactful.
The people that are part of this
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00:36:43,810 --> 00:36:47,860
program are getting their message,
their mission,
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00:36:47,860 --> 00:36:51,820
and they're reconnecting with
their soul mission to get their
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message out into the world.
So you can just go check out any
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of the links in the show notes for
these things that I'm talking about,
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but I want to invite you into
something really special.
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So at the beginning of this episode,
I was talking to you about how easy
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it is for us as high performers to
use our intellect over our intuition.
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Your intuition is pinging you.
You have an inner knowing around the
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things that are not a fit for you.
Just the same way that I had an
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00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:20,080
inner knowing that the apartment
wasn't the fit for me.
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The same way I knew before I met
this person and sat across from
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the table that I felt depleted.
I knew that that would happen.
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00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:32,060
I had an intuitive hit.
If we can allow our intuition to
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really drive the show.
Oh my gosh, everything.
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00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:41,690
Everything goes more smoothly.
So. I'm going to.
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I'm creating a special master
class called Unlock Intuition.
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00:37:46,010 --> 00:37:51,530
Discern Intellect from intuition.
It's on January 30th at 9 a.m.
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00:37:51,530 --> 00:37:53,480
Pacific.
You can register by going to
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Brenda winkel.com/intuition.
So as we come to a close for
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this episode,
I invite you to really lean into what
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messages is your body giving you.
And you know, as we talk about pain,
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00:38:10,550 --> 00:38:14,840
let's say if you have pain,
heartburn or headaches or other pain.
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00:38:15,900 --> 00:38:20,670
I'm going to teach you something
that you you can try before you push
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00:38:20,670 --> 00:38:26,460
away the pain with an aspirin or
an antacid or something like that.
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00:38:26,490 --> 00:38:33,700
I invite you to talk to the pain.
First of all, ask pain. Are you mine?
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You'll be surprised how often
the pain that you are carrying
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00:38:38,090 --> 00:38:42,050
in your body is not yours.
And we'll talk more about what to
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00:38:42,050 --> 00:38:44,750
do with that a different time.
But that would be question
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00:38:44,750 --> 00:38:49,520
number one. Pain. Are you mine?
Question number two is pain.
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00:38:50,060 --> 00:38:58,080
What would you like me to know?
Or do. And you will get an answer.
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00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:04,200
It will probably be something
that you kind of know and yet
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00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:07,560
also kind of don't know.
So like for example,
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00:39:07,620 --> 00:39:12,180
if if you ask your your headache,
for example, you might say headache.
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00:39:12,180 --> 00:39:16,350
What do you want me to know?
You might get an answer that
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00:39:16,350 --> 00:39:21,750
says something like, I'm tired.
And then invitation to go do the
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00:39:21,750 --> 00:39:26,700
thing that the pain has told you
that it wants you to know.
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00:39:26,700 --> 00:39:31,020
So if it says, I need rest, go rest.
If it says I need more water,
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00:39:31,020 --> 00:39:33,000
drink more water.
If it says,
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00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:37,440
I don't want to go to that thing.
Sometimes actually that happens.
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00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:41,970
Your body knows that something
isn't a fit for you, something
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00:39:41,970 --> 00:39:45,960
isn't energetically aligned,
and you'll get these weird pains
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00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:50,940
out of nowhere as a way to avoid
going to the thing so we can
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00:39:50,940 --> 00:39:54,560
talk more about how you can.
You can learn to say no to the
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things that aren't aligned to you.
If you're interested,
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00:39:56,810 --> 00:39:59,240
just email me and say, hey, yeah,
I want to hear more about this.
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00:39:59,240 --> 00:40:03,920
Can you talk about it on the podcast?
Because I'm telling you what,
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00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:08,690
your body has everything you
need right now.
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00:40:08,690 --> 00:40:11,330
If you'll only allow yourself to
feel it.
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00:40:12,170 --> 00:40:17,960
Okay, I hope I see you in the
free masterclass on January 30th.
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00:40:17,990 --> 00:40:22,880
It'd be so fun to see you in the New
Moon Breathwork on January 11th,
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00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:26,960
where we are activating the
energy of 111.
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00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,500
And I hope to see you on
Instagram at 2 p.m. every
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Tuesday for some breathwork.
And I'm really interested in
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00:40:36,170 --> 00:40:39,560
serving you in a way that is
really supportive for you,
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00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:43,460
so I would love to know.
What questions do you have?
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00:40:43,460 --> 00:40:47,930
Where do you need support and
invitation to either DM me on
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00:40:47,930 --> 00:40:52,430
Instagram or email me Brenda at
Brenda winkle.com and I will find a
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00:40:52,430 --> 00:40:56,750
way to create some content around
the questions that you have.
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Thank you so much for listening
to your yes filled life.
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It just means the world to me that
we're doing this journey together.
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And if you haven't left the
podcast or reading your review,
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please go do so at this time.
And if you love this episode,
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please share it with a friend.
Bye for now. Until next time.
