I'm so excited to share that I have a brand new podcast!!

It's about finding joy. It's also about inspiring women who have found and built joy-filled lives. You'll hear more about how to find joy hourly, weekly, monthly, and yearly, and learn about how to spread joy. You'll also hear stories that don't sound joyful at the beginning but where joy was found.

I started this podcast because I wanted to normalize finding joy while experiencing the ups and downs of daily life. I hope you feel inspired and entertained.

I'm so excited to share that I have a brand new podcast!!

It's about finding joy. It's also about inspiring women who have found and built joy-filled lives. You'll hear more about how to find joy hourly, weekly, monthly, and yearly, and learn about how to spread joy. You'll also hear stories that don't sound joyful at the beginning but where joy was found.

I started this podcast because I wanted to normalize finding joy while experiencing the ups and downs of daily life. I hope you feel inspired and entertained.

I'm giving you a downloadable meditation for FREE that can be downloaded at www.brendwinkle.com/feelbetter 

In episode 1 I’m talking about why mistakes are necessary. You can press play here or...

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We tell kids that it’s ok to make mistakes. Mistakes are where learning happens. 

When you make a mistake, you know you’ve shown up. And you’ve figured out at least one way not to do something.

When you are in school, you go in with the expectation that you need a first draft. Or a second draft.

Somewhere along the way, you stop giving yourself the grace to make a first draft. You think you have to do it perfectly right out of the gate.

Aallow yourself the same grace you give children. You’re expecting yourself to be perfect all the time. It's like you think your life has to be the final draft. 

This manifests in staying in jobs you don’t love, in relationships that don’t work, in houses you don’t love, etc. But what if… you gave yourself permission to TRY something else? Or heck... even to THINK about doing something else.

Is there a hobby you would like to try you would be willing to not be great at in the beginning? The successful photographer you know didn’t start out by selling her first photographs. She practiced. The successful musician you know was once a grade school kid who wasn’t very good but she practiced and learned.

We EXPECT this of kids. We expect them to practice. We expect them to learn new skills.

Why don’t you get to do this? Well, I’ve got news for you. YOU CAN!!

When you allow yourself to make mistakes, you allow yourself to think. Mistakes allow thinking to happen. Making mistakes is part of the game, it’s not the exception.

I see my clients holding themselves to very high standards. They are very good at what they do, they are high achievers. But they feel lost. They feel like they are bad for feeling things like anger, resentment, disappointment or the need to change. That's often why they come to me... they want to feel better. 

How do you go from working at that high standard where mistakes aren't allowed and you must be perfect all the time....to allowing yourself to show up and make mistakes? There are three simple ways.

White Space.

White space is where your creativity lives. It’s where ideas are born. It’s where YOU live. You can do this in big ways and in little ways. I recommend starting in little ways. 

• Think of 1-degree turns. Think about an airplane. If you change the heading of an airplane by 1 degree over an 8-hour flight, you’re in a totally different destination than you aimed for at the beginning. Small, subtle changes are the way to go! 
• Start with 1 minute. Create one minute of white time several times a day. Time when you aren’t responding, engaging, or doing anything. Set a timer and even if you are looking at the timer watching time tick down, if you can even get 6 seconds of calm and peace, you’ll feel TOTALLY different.

Joy comes from being present. Learning to be present at the moment is how to learn to feel joy.

When you are in the present moment you are more connected to your higher self, your source/god/universe, and the people around you. When you can show up, and just be willing to be messy, that’s where joy lives. Sometimes you make it hard by thinking “I have to be happy”. 

Be willing to show up and do it messy.

It doesn’t have to be perfect. NO matter what it is… it doesn’t have to be perfect. 

You’ll find joy when you can be present in the moment, give yourself time to think, and be willing to show up and do it messy.

Are you willing to try?

Send me an email at [email protected] if you are willing to try. I'll cheer you on every step of the way!

I invited you to listen to download that free meditation I told you about at the beginning. Go to www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetter 

All my love,

xoxo

Brenda